Why marry?

What is love?
I don't claim to know the answer. Not too long ago, I did have many theories about it though.
Now, seven years later, I ask myself if anything has changed?
Yes, a lot has changed. My opinions have shifted from one end of a spectrum to another.
Despite that, essentially, my point remains the same.
I still don't believe in the institution of marriage.
For those who ask, what does love have to do with marriage, my point is exactly that.
What does love have to do with marriage? Why should marriage exist?
Why would love need an excuse for the weakness of man?
In an ideal world, there would be no need for marriage.
But since our world is far from that, people have unanimously agreed to have an institution of marriage.
It is the law. Some rules. Something that would bind a man to a woman. And vice versa.
Something to constantly remind him not to go astray.
Something for him to own. Something for him to possess. Something for him to vent out frustrations into.
Something from which to expect favors. Demand them maybe. Something to blame for his failures.
Something to perhaps show off about.
And free and approved sex.

If my statements sound brash, let me put it another way.
Just what could be the worst that could happen if you removed the word marriage from people's vocabulary.
It would be a free free world.
Men and women would still fall in love. Have relationships. Not strictly with one partner.
Women would get pregnant. They might have fatherless babies.
Women may not want their babies. So now who would take care of the baby?
Is there anyone responsible for them?

Sounds chaotic. But all of the above holds good even with the institution of marriage. Except perhaps for the last bit about where the parentless children belong? With marriage there are laws to decide that. Without marriage, I agree I have no answer to that question.
But the question remains. Why is marriage a solution to the problem?
Why marriage at the cost of personal freedom?
Why can't we leave it to our natural instincts? Why do we assume people will be cruel and indifferent?
Will the parentless child be better off with two parents pretending to be nice to each other?

We always have the society to fall back on in case of a default in a marriage. It would be the same even without marriage, if only all of us truly forget about marriage, there would be no prejudice against unmarried couples, unwed mothers or fathers and parentless children.

You could say I have no case against marriage and that all I claim is that marriages are unnecessary. Why should I try so hard to see a world without marriages, when the effects, I claim so myself, are going to be pretty much the same. The reason is that marriages have just become an excuse that man uses to have free unquestioned sex. He uses it to abuse, blackmail and bind people. Uses it as a weapon. Being unmarried is considered a shame and being divorced is considered a sin. There definitely IS a prejudice against unmarried men and women, parentless children. That fact is taken advantage of and marriage is being abused. And all because of the fact that marriages are considered divine and essential. That brings me to the most important question. If marriage is about rules and excuses for man's weakness, why is it considered an all holy and a lovey-dovey romantic affair? Why is it something to be proud of? 'Holy matrimony'. It should be more like 'holey matrimony'! And if I were allowed to formulate the holy vows, it would be, "I don't trust you/me to love me/you or to stay the same forever. And even if I am foolish enough to trust you, surely my parents and the society don't. Therefore I marry you. And need you to marry me. And here is a sparkling diamond ring or yellow thread to remind me that you exist just in case I forget."